3rder is an alternative dating app for open-minded people to connect with like-minded couples & singles. It offers a more flexible and authentic way to meet people, focusing on genuine conversations and shared interests. Whether you're looking to expand your social circle, discover new perspectives, or simply connect with people who share your mindset, 3rder creates a space where connections feel natural and genuine.
Discover people who share your interests, values, and lifestyle—without pressure or expectations.
Explore connections naturally in a safe, private, and respectful environment.
* A Safe & Private Community
3rder offers a secure and private space for all users to enjoy meaningful interactions. It is a professional social application designed to connect like-minded people for both relationships and friendships.
We carefully review every profile to help reduce fake accounts and maintain a trusted environment. Your privacy is our priority—your personal information, including email, photos, and location, is securely stored and never shared with any third party.
* Connect with Curious Minds Worldwide
3rder is a popular platform for building friendships and relationships, bringing together people from diverse backgrounds.
With a steadily growing and active user base, you’ll have more opportunities to meet new people and create meaningful connections.
* Before You Begin
Before signing up, please confirm that you are at least 18 years old and have carefully read our user policy. Violations of any rules may result in account restrictions.
Once you're set, you're ready to begin your journey.
* Popular Cities on 3rder
United States:
San Diego, Atlanta, Chicago, New York City (NYC), Los Angeles, Washington, DC, Virginia
Australia:
Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, Perth, Queensland
Canada:
Toronto, Vancouver, Montreal, Edmonton, Alberta, British Columbia
United Kingdom (UK):
London, Manchester, Birmingham, Glasgow
Ireland:
Dublin
Subscription options for VIP membership service:
1-month subscription with auto renewal: $24.99
3-month subscription with auto renewal: $39.99
6-month subscription: $49.99
**Prices are in U.S. dollars, may vary in countries other than the U.S. and are subject to change without notice.
Please note that with all subscriptions:
– No cancellation of the current subscription is allowed during active subscription period.
– Payment will be charged to iTunes Account at confirmation of purchase
– Subscription automatically renews unless auto-renew is turned off at least 24-hours before the end of the current period
– Account will be charged for renewal within 24-hours prior to the end of the current period, and identify the cost of the renewal
– Subscriptions may be managed by you and auto-renewal may be turned off by going to your Account Settings after purchase
– Any unused portion of a free trial period, if offered, will be forfeited when the user purchases a subscription to that publication, where applicable
See our Terms of Use Agreement below for more information on our cancellation policy.
Privacy Policy:
https://www.3rder.com/policy.html
Terms of use:
https://www.3rder.com/terms.html
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Best dating app, ever!
Victory13$
As a single woman navigating the world of online dating, I decided to give this app a try after hearing positive reviews from friends. Right off the bat, I was impressed by how user-friendly and visually appealing the app is. The setup process was straightforward, and I appreciated the detailed profile options that allowed me to showcase my personality and interests. The app’s algorithm seems to work well—I’ve been matched with people who share similar values and hobbies, which makes conversations flow naturally. One feature I really enjoy is the “private album”. They make it easier to start conversations without the usual awkward small talk. I’ve also found the video call option helpful for virtual dates, especially when I want to get a better sense of someone before meeting in person. The safety features, like profile verification and the ability to report or block users, give me peace of mind while using the app. However, there are a few drawbacks. While the free version is decent, some of the more advanced features, like seeing who liked your profile, require a premium subscription, which feels a bit overpriced. Additionally, I’ve noticed that some users don’t take the app seriously, which can be frustrating. Overall, though, this app has been a positive experience and has helped me meet some interesting people.
Unlike most dating apps on the market
Muku_101
I recently tried out 3rder, and it’s unlike most dating apps on the market. If you’re yearning for and exciting and unconventional dating experience, then this app is probably for you. With its total user base of over 2 million people, 3rder opens up a whole world of possibilities for both relationships shops and friendships. What really impressed me about the app was it’s commitment to user safety and privacy. They’ve created a serious and anonymous community by carefully reviewing each profile and weeding out any fake accounts. This gave me peace of mind knowing that my personal information, including my email address photos and address would remain safe confidential. It’s refreshing to come across an app that genuinely values and safeguard its users private which apps like tinder and bumble don’t Another thing I liked about the app was the way you could make a post or as the app calls it “moment” kind of like Instagram posts but for finding someone to have a little fun with. Or for couples to find someone vice versa. You can also add private photos that you can send to if anyone asks for them a feature none of the dating apps currently y on the market allow. This is a really fun and exciting concept of a dating app and I can’t wait to try the app out for the long run!
Developer Response
Hi Muku! Thank you for your review and thank you so much for sharing your honest experience with us. We are very happy to hear that you enjoy our swingers community. We hope to live up to your expectations and continue delighting you in your future dating experience. If you're having any issues, please feel free to send us an email to support@3somes.org and we'll be happy to hear from you.
True Experience Here
Dave1566
As a single bisexual woman navigating the dating scene, I’m extremely selective when it comes to couples. Most dating apps feel overwhelming or unsafe, but 3rder has been a game-changer. What sets it apart is the detailed filtering system – I can search by vibe, specific kinks, experience level, and even preferred dynamics (like whether couples want ongoing connections or one-time encounters). This saves so much time and helps me find truly compatible matches. The privacy features are what really won me over. The option to blur my face in public photos gave me the confidence to explore without compromising my privacy. And unlike other apps where single women get bombarded with low-effort messages, the couples on 3rder have been consistently respectful and communicative. So far, I’ve had two incredible experiences – both couples were attentive to my boundaries and made sure everyone felt comfortable. My only wish is that more apps took this approach to ethical non-monogamy. While the user base could be larger in some areas, the quality of connections makes up for it. If you’re a single bi person tired of sifting through flakes and fakes, 3rder is absolutely worth trying. It’s rare to find a platform that actually prioritizes safety and genuine connections.
3rder Update!
• Performance boost & bug fixes
Version 4.7.5
Subscriptions
One Month Membership
Best value to have full access!
$14.99
The developer, 3rder Limited, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .
Data Linked to You
The following data may be collected and linked to your identity:
Location
Contact Info
User Content
Data Not Linked to You
The following data may be collected but it is not linked to your identity:
User Content
Identifiers
Privacy practices may vary, for example, based on the features you use or your age. Learn More
Accessibility
The developer has not yet indicated which accessibility features this app supports. Learn More
Information
Seller
3rder Limited
Size
84.6 MB
Category
Social Networking
Compatibility
Requires iOS 13.0 or later.
iPhone Requires iOS 13.0 or later.
iPod touch Requires iOS 13.0 or later.
Apple Vision Requires visionOS 1.0 or later.
Languages
English and 9 more
English, French, German, Italian, Japanese, Korean, Portuguese, Simplified Chinese, Spanish, Traditional Chinese